Mother’s Day in Retrospect

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Is it enough that we take one day out of the year to pay homage to Mothers? And do we really appreciate our Moms early enough in our lives? Or is it when we become Mothers that we realize the sacrifice that many mothers make for their children and then learn to appreciate them?


My mother Maria is 84 and lost her mother when she was 16. It was a car accident, they were doing a good deed trying to find a runaway neighborhood girl from Hoboken, NJ. The drive to Connecticut in December on the east coast, icy roads were treacherous. The driver lost control of the car, it went over an embankment and Luisa, her mother, was crushed. My mom survived, but has mourned her the loss of her mother every day. I was hoping that one day my Mom would finally get over it as she frequently revisits that night and it causes her pain…


Last year at our Maria’s Italian Kitchen in West LA, I walked into the patio where there was a special Luncheon: Motherless Mothers. I asked about this organization and they said they meet every year the day before Mother’s Day to share the experience of being a Mom without the experience of having a mom.

 Hope Edelman, Maria Alfano, & Irene Rubaum-Keller at the Motherless Mothers Luncheon at Maria's Italian Kitchen in West Los Angeles

Hope Edelman, Maria Alfano, & Irene Rubaum-Keller at the Motherless Mothers Luncheon at Maria’s Italian Kitchen in West Los Angeles

So this year, on Saturday I brought my mom to be a part of this group. The woman who organized the lunch welcomed my mom with open arms and although I can usually relate to most people, I knew that I could not share their experience. This was a special group and my mom belonged with them.

At the end of the lunch, the woman stood in a circle and grasped each other’s hand, and announced their name and their mothers’ names.

When it came time for my mom, I took a deep breath for her. As she said “Maria daughter of Luisa” there were many tears and many embraces.

I thanked the women and told them although my mom will never get over the loss of her mother I appreciated that she was not alone anymore.

With Gratitude for Motherless Mothers,

Maddy

 

For More Information on the Motherless Mothers group, visit here: http://www.motherlessdaughtersbiz.com

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